Monday, December 31, 2007

My New Year's Resolutions Dilemma

New Year's is kind of a weird time for me. I distinctly remember one year it was about 11 pm on January 1st and I was frantic because I hadn't decided yet what my goals for the year were going to be. For some reason I had in my mind that if you don't "do" a goal every single day of the year, then you failed at the goal. That night I ended up doing 50 pushups, 50 situps, reading my scriptures, writing in my regular journal, writing in my gratitude journal, flossing my teeth, reading a Conference talk, and doing anything else I could think of that had the potential to be a year-long goal. If I did them all on January 1st, then I could decide on January 2nd which ones I actually wanted to be my real goals, and I could still be safe with saying "I wrote in my gratitude journal every single day this year" (which of course never happened). Hmph. Obviously I'm not too good at this whole goal thing.

To me, my sister Becca is the person who epitomizes New Year's Resolutions. During high school, every night before she went to bed, Becca faithfully did her pushups. Without fail. I'm serious about this. I remember her doing pushups in a tent while we were camping, in a hotel room, when we slept over at anyone's house, and even when she was sick and had thrown up earlier that day. The craziest thing of all was that each time January 1st came along, she upped the number of pushups she was doing by ten. Yep, that's how you spell crazy. Or at least dedicated in a warped sort of way. She left the rest of us amateurs in the dust when she made the transition from the New YEAR's Resolutions to the bigger and better LIFE Resolutions. She was doing eighty, ninety, one hundred pushups a night in her teens; I envisioned her as a fifty-year old doing pushups for hours every night! Sheesh! Luckily she got married and Jordan has tempered her a bit... Thinking back, I wonder how I ever got past my guilt complex of watching her do pushups every night while I lay, an unexercised blob, in my bed... I guess I justified that just watching her made me feel as tired as if I were doing the pushups myself and practically counted anyway!

Obviously, physical goals haven't proved that long-lasting or life-altering for me. Although I do remember when I used to lift those black ten-pound weights every night, and I went through a phase when I did those pincher/grip things for basketball. Maybe that's when I started being proud of my handshake... And I still do my calf exercises every time I brush my teeth, much to the amusement of my roommates and family. So I guess some things, remnants of past resolutions regarding physical activity, have rubbed off on me. But for the most part, I'm better at eating goals. (Please await my next upcoming blog on the subject.)

Lest you think I am a perfect heathen, I have "succeeded," if you will, with at least some of my goals. Becca and my "no-chocolate" goal while Krista was on her mission was a smashing success. I still haven't ever bought anything out of a vending machine, and I've written in my journal every single day (except one) since I moved out. But some goals will be on my List of Goals until the day I die...and I probably won't ever achieve any of them. These vague "unachievables" include: get into bed earlier, read my scriptures in the morning, be more punctual, keep my room cleaner, do my jobs before Mom asks me to, exercise more, don't pick at my split ends, and a multitude of other bad habits. Ah me.

But there is hope: A few months ago I came across this quote by Joseph B. Wirthlin when we were studying the Conference talks for Institute.

"I urge you to examine your life. Determine where you are and what you need to do to be the kind of person you want to be. Create inspiring, noble, and righteous goals that fire your imagination and create excitement in your heart. And then keep your eye on them. Work consistently towards achieving them... In other words, never take your eye off the ball."
--Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin, April '07 General Conference

Hope? I'd call it more of a guilt trip....guilt trip...guilt trip... I don't know if I would exactly call flossing an "inspiring, noble, and righteous goal that fires my imagination..." Oh dear me. But obviously I should floss, and if I don't have a goal to floss every day, I could very well end up flossing a mere time or two every month! Then I'd have cavities and it would cost Dad money and I'd feel guilty about wasting his money when I could have prevented it and no one wins. What to do.

Then there are the other troubles I have with making goals--in a rare moment of ambition, I make a huge long list of things I want to do differently and change and include in my life and take out of my life and whatnot and the list is so long that I end up getting pretty much none of them accomplished. Sheesh. And, if I ever manage to select just a few goals to focus on, I follow them religiously, sometimes to a fault. Not like I would know from experience that reading scriptures at three in the morning when you can barely focus your eyes to read the words on the page isn't too helpful to overall spirituality... It's the principle of the thing, right? Right. ...or is it? Other times I end up rationalizing: I should just go to sleep and read in the morning when I can actually get something out of it. This seems (and is) very rational. But, nonetheless, I still have to read at least a verse or two just so I can say I've read the scriptures every day of my life since I was thirteen. Inside, I know it doesn't really matter...but it does...and thus I still stay up night after night, reading and re-reading the same verses over and over again and not getting anything out of it.

Well, there's my lengthily discussed dilemma. I'm open for suggestions and comments and ideas and anything else that might help me in my predicament and need for a balance between reality and aspiration.

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

FINALS

Forcing information into my brain
Immune system, hold out--please
Nights at the library 'til two a.m.
Almost there
Lack of sleep and regular meals
Soon it will all be over

As my roommate Kristen (K-bob)'s professor reminded her students the other day: C's get degrees.

Maybe I should post that all over my apartment and in my room and on my binder and in the office in the library. Or I could just staple it to my forehead.

Thursday, December 06, 2007

our ghetto apartment is falling apart

Our apartment flooded again this week! But, luckily, this time it happened on Saturday morning (as opposed to Saturday night) so we called maintenance and they cleaned our entire bathroom. Beautiful day. I was most definitely NOT looking forward to scooping all that junk out of the bottom of the shower again. Blegh. And they cleaned the carpet in our hallway, too! Then our toilet wasn't working and we didn't have any water pressure in the bathroom sink and the water in the kitchen faucet came out dark brown, but no one died and we got that fixed, too. Gotta love the dorms.

The most recent breakdown update is: our oven is broken. Suffice it to say... hopefully no one has to bake anything anytime soon. I'm just glad it happened tonight after I was done making biscuits and a casserole for dinner group tonight! (Wow, doesn't that sound domestic...I am so proud of myself. Please just ask Ryan how the biscuits turned out. And ask how many he had. In one sitting.)

These are the days when I am oh so glad I live in Provo and can go home where everything works properly. Oh, wait, the car I drive--good ol Baby Blue--died this week...I guess I'm stuck here after all. Oh well. Maybe it will make me study more for finals, right?

Saturday, December 01, 2007

A Few Things I'm Looking Forward to This Christmas Season

--going to see the lights at Temple Square
--hearing Christmas music on the radio (excluding cheesers like "Santa
Baby" and "Hey, Santa")

--the end of my first semester of college
--singing Christmas hymns and carols
--being able to enjoy my first true Christmas break since the sixth grade
--the kitchen table on Christmas morning
--watching It's A Wonderful Life
--Dad and Kim's annual recitation of Luke 2 around the Christmas tree
--reading books for fun (this includes finally finishing the last hundred
pages of Les Mis)

--decorating my dorm with Christmas happiness
--snowshoeing
--cheesy Christmas sweaters
--watching Dad laugh his head off at Scrooge's pithy lines
--moving back home for a few weeks
--not working at a restaurant during the holidays!!
--trying to play the Nutcracker piano duets
--saying "Merry Christmas" to the checker in the grocery store and other
random people I don't even know

--the Men's Chorus Concert
--reading through the box of Christmas books for the hundredth time
--listening to Kim sing "Star of Bethlehem"
--hearing Dad retell the story of the Christmas china
--getting slaughtered at Rummikub by Uncle Lloyd on New Year's Eve
--not having to go to the stake dance on New Year's Eve!!!
--having a positive attitude when we go Christmas caroling as a family
--watching the First Presidency's devotional
--sitting by the Christmas tree in the dark
--getting my hair cut and donating it to Locks of Love
--chilling with the fam
--re-reading the Christmas story in the scriptures
--drawing closer to the Savior